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- 1 - 無境：像初次見面一樣對任何人抱有一個良好的印象，即使時間流逝那份美好開始褪去，你也一定要保持住對別人能做到最好的信心。 書茶：這個行為其實關乎別人，更關乎自己。你會因此看到自己的信心在不斷增長。 WUJING: Always keeping the good thought about others just like how you felt about them at the first time you met. Even after a long time the beautiful feeling about them has cast off, you still have to ensure that you will always do the best to them.
SHUCHA: This behaviour is not only about others but also yourself, hence you will become more confident. - 2 - 無境：當一個人跟你抱怨或訴說他們的痛苦，你以為做一個好的傾聽者是一種慈悲的行為，然而你錯了，那只會加大他們的不幸。 書茶：真正的慈悲是簡單地終止對方的訴說，然后告訴別人：So what？因為你經歷了這一切，你反而會更優秀。 WUJING: You think being a good audience to listen someone's complaint about their sorrow is a kind of compassion. But you are wrong since that will only enlarge their misfortune. SHUCHA: The real compassion is simply to stop their complain and to tell them that all you have been experienced will make you be more excellent. - 3 - 無境：許多人以為“愛你自己”的意思就是要善待自己，而這恰恰是不愛自己的表現。因為你覺得委屈，覺得自己犧牲了，所以才會想到善待自己。 書茶：真正的愛自己很簡單：就是無條件接受現在的你。相信現在這個或者無聊或者無能或者無恥的你可以創造和擁有一切最美好的事情。 WUJING: Lots of people think that 'loving yourself' means being kind to yourself, on the contrary, it shows that you don't love yourself. Because you feel grievance and sacrificial which made you want to treat yourself well. SHUCHA: The true 'loving yourself' is really simple that is just to accept this current self and fully believe this bord or incapable or even impudence self can create and have all the beautiful things.
- 4 - 無境：一個懂得愛自己的人不會去后悔或內疚過去發生的事情。你總幻想如果上天能給你再來一次的機會，你就會對她說點什么。沒有用。 書茶：永遠不否定現在的自己。把所有的后悔與內疚轉換成感恩。因為過去，讓我懂得了感恩，讓我在發生之后依然可以領略到生命中的無比美好。 WUJING: The one who knows how to love himself won't regret or feel guilty about what has happened. You always imagine if there is one more chance to do something differently, however that won't make any different. SHUCHA: Never disavowal of current self. Transform all those regrets and compunctions into grateful thinking because past has tought me being thankful, in addition, all what I experienced has made me able to appreciate the fabulous moment of life. - 5 - 無境：愛自己意味著不再和別人做無聊的比較：他居然考上了大學；她的情人比我的有錢；他閉關了三次辟谷了五次… 書茶：問一下自己：這些羨慕別人的事情能帶給我內心的喜悅嗎？如果能，那么去做它。如果只是帶給你優越感，無視它。 WUJING: Love youself is to stop comparing yourself with any others. You would not say :'Look! He does enroll in the college.' 'Oh my God, Her boyfriend is richer than mine.' 'How come he can seclude five times and accomplish the fasting three times to cultivate himself!'
SHUCHA: Ask youself one question that does any of those comparisons bring you the internal happiness? If the answer is YES, then do it. However if the YES answer also makes you feel superior, please ignore it. - 6 - 無境：任何時候別用“撤回愛”來表達自己的不滿，那看起來是不愛別人，實際上是最不愛自己的表現。 書茶：好好想想吧：多少次因為小孩或愛人不聽話，你變得無比冷淡。每次你都向世界宣告了一次你不值得擁有愛。因為你以為唯有控制別人才能讓自己得到愛。
WUJING: Never intend to express your dissatisfaction by 'withdrawing love', which can only show your not loving yourself, rather than not loving others.
SHUCHA: Can you still remember how many times you become so indifferent to your beloved one and the kids, just since they do not follow your words? Actually that's how you make your statement to the world again and again that you do not deserve love at all. You think you could only receive love by controlling others. - 7 - 無境：當你向別人表達肯定、贊美或開心等正面反應時，你常常會有一種充滿的感覺，這種感覺如此美好，她可以讓你內心無比寧靜。 書茶：當你向別人表達憤怒、抱怨或傷心等負面反應時，你常常會有一種“未完成”的感覺，這種感覺使得你會產生一種錯覺，以為只要進一步表達就可以“滿足”，但事實則是更大的“未完成”，于是你陷入了負向循環。 WUJING: When you express recognition, compliment, and happiness (i.e. positive emotions) to others, you would feel a sense of fulfillment, which is so beautiful to bring you the eternal inner peace. SHUCHA: When you express rage, complaint and grief (i.e. negative emotions) to others, youwould always feel a sense of incompleteness, which makes you have an illusion of expressing further to reach the “satisfaction”. Unfortunately, the reality is just on the opposite side: the more ofincompleteness that will bring you into the negative circles. - 8 - 無境：相信神讓你謙卑；不信神讓你自信。相信輪回讓你寬慰；不信輪回讓你更珍惜。 書茶：這一切都是好的。信念沒有對錯，重要的是信念是否帶給你內在的喜悅與寧靜。任何時候跟隨自己的喜悅而保持開放的態度。這份喜悅由心而出，由此你不會因為別人對你信念的否定而帶來影響，這是尊重自己的表現。 WUJING：Believing in God makes you humble; Not believing in God makes you confident. Believing in Samsara makes you soothing; Not believing in Samsara makes you feel more precious. (Samsara: life coming and going again and again) SHUCHA: Everything is good. There is no right or wrong on belief, as long as the belief can bring you inner peace and happiness. To follow with your own happiness and being open at any time is the key. The happiness from the bottom of the heart, which can hardly be impacted by other’s judgement on your belief, is self-respect. |
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